Top 10 List of Hindsights

This top 10 list is gleaned from 21 months of suffering, tears, reflection, setbacks, surgeries, solitude, discoveries and lots of ups and downs. The order is random but the lessons are life changing.

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#10: Learn to like yourself and if you don’t, change.

If you don’t like yourself and are forced to be alone much of the time, you will be unhappy and miserable. I decided early on to like my own company and the parts I didn’t like, I went to work on to change. That process continues to this day.

#9: Go for joy, not circumstantial happiness.

If you need great circumstances to be happy, you’ll be disappointed often and live a life of quiet desperation during trials and tribulations. Joy is a choice and is made every single day regardless of your circumstances.

#8: Let suffering be your teacher not a dreaded companion.

If you see suffering as something to get over as quickly as possible, you’ll miss the lessons she has to teach you. Many valuable lessons are only learned through pain and suffering.

I walked a mile with Pleasure; she chatted all the way;
But left me none the wiser for all she had to say.
I walked a mile with Sorrow; and ne’er a word said she;
But, oh! The things I learned from her, when Sorrow walked with me.
Robert Browning Hamilton

#7: If you change your perspective, you change your life.

The ability to change the way you see your situation is powerful. For example, when I was living with a “day-at-a-time” perspective and the pain was more than I could handle, I changed my perspective to a “minute-at-a-time” and got through it.

#6: When God puts in front of you “road closed”, He opens up another way.

Sometimes I wonder where I would have been without this accident. But more often I have a deep gratitude for the new road I believe God has opened up for me. I’ve met amazing people, had life changing experiences, grown in empathy for others, learned new skills because of this new road.

#5: Focusing on simple pleasures brings great satisfaction.

At the start of this journey I was preoccupied with what I had lost – walking, running, working, traveling, sleeping pain free. Then a light came on and I started focusing on what I still enjoyed doing – eating out, watching movies, sharing time with friends, learning new things. Pleasure is a matter of perspective.

#4: Boredom is a lack of purpose not a lack of something to do.

If there is one phrase that raises my blood pressure it’s “I’m bored.” For someone who “could” be bored after 5500 hours in a recliner, I have made a choice to find meaningful things to do in spite of my limitations. Living on purpose eliminates boredom.

#3: You are what you eat.

This is true on many levels. If you eat too much food, you gain weight, have no energy and hurt yourself. If you eat the wrong kind of mental food, you grow stagnate and run out of options. If you eat too much negative self-talk, you grow cynical, grumpy and limit your potential. So choose wisely what you eat!

#2: Serving others pays off.

Staying focused on yourself keeps you small in spirit and when problems come, increases your misery. Looking out for ways to serve others with a kind word, a listening ear, a timely gift, a contribution of talent, or a helping hand grows your soul and makes your own problems less consuming.

#1: To have friends within your family is a gift.

No family is perfect (including mine) but one thing I’ve noticed, some of my closest traveling companions through this journey of injury, repair and recovery have been those friends who are also family. The love, compassion and partnership I’ve experienced with my family at multiple levels has been a gift that brings tears to my eyes when I think about it (and you know who you are!).

What have you learned in hindsight this past year?

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17 Responses to Top 10 List of Hindsights

  1. Darlene Hammond says:

    Thanks, Cam. Excellent insights here.

  2. Don Boyd says:

    All good insights, but the ‘deepest’ was #4 for me. Profound! We usually think of buried anger as a source for depression; here’s another; boredom or lack of purpose. Thanks, Cam

  3. Mary-Elsie Wolfe says:

    This is a good list, evidencing purpose and reflection.

  4. Linda Hilderman says:

    I found your comment about “Where would my life be if I hadn’t had this difficulty?” so enlightening…… God puts “detours” in our lives which we can resent or accept as “redirection”. Great insights as always…. thanks again for teaching from your experience.

  5. Sondra Burnett says:

    Cam, I have been reading almost everyone of your posts because . . . I know you are a man of integrity and if you speak now it is out of the wisdom gleaned from your difficult experience. We so value you. I am on the verge of facing a hard time and have not been able to face it. This post helps me look to the future in a new way (esp #8). Bless you for sharing from your depths so we all can glean and see new insights from the Lord through it.

    • Cam Taylor says:

      Thanks Sondra for your kind & affirming words. May you find new strength as you step into the challenges that are ahead. I appreciate you & Scott very much & value your support & prayers so very much!

  6. Beth says:

    I love this list….think I’ll ‘post’ it on my fridge! Because of the choices you’ve made along this road of pain and suffering, we’ve all been challenged on many levels. I’m proud to call you my brother and my friend!

  7. This could be your most inspiring blog of all. Not one person who reads this, and truly reflects on the wisdom of your words, will not be able to relate to this. We all fall short, don’t we? I love the poem by Robert Browning Hamilton. To paraphrase the amazing writer, Stuart Hamblin, ; we need just enough rain, just enough pain, to become what He meant us to be. Keep on passing along your unique perspective.

    • Cam Taylor says:

      Thanks Ross for your encouraging words – I really like what Hamblin says. I’ll have to quote him going forward! Continue to enjoy your warm winter adventure – love your updates!

  8. Terry Clyne says:

    Thanks, Cam. If you would not mind, I’d like to use this as a bulletin insert for this coming Sunday’s worship service? All the insights were profound but in particular, #4 & 5 were the big ones for me. Isn’t it interesting how different ones “spoke” to different people!

    • Cam Taylor says:

      By all means use the post and pass it along to others. I’m just glad others can gain some help from it – it is interesting how different people lands with different ideas. Take care!

  9. Scott A. says:

    Thanks Cam, # 3 was a big eye opener for me! Thanks for sharing

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